Love, Selflessness, and Communication: What Did You Say?

Communication makes or breaks a moment. A kind word in a moment of pain can change a life. A harsh word in a moment of vulnerability can shut someone down indefinitely. Often, communication happens only after someone is so upset that rational communication is no longer an option. (This is also known as the middle-class-American-screaming match.) When communication happens at an utterly wrong time, either too much or too little — the results are less than optimized for everyone involved.

I’ve observed that most people don’t communicate their needs because they are fearful of others viewing this action as “clingy”, “needy”, or a host of other negatives. We shut ourselves down because we fear that if others see our less-than-shiny spots, we will then be belly-up to the Universe in a full-scale prone spread, ready for the vultures to take their pick at our most tender places.

This vulnerability is, indeed — true. We must have faith that the person we’re attempting to communicate with is not a vulture.

Some people have come from backgrounds where if one speaks their needs, they are chastised or dismissed. Others come from backgrounds where there is no childhood modeling for decent two-way communication, so their communication is neither decent, nor two-way. It just isn’t.

We labor under the illusion that somehow, the Universe and everyone in it is supposed to know what we need by our sheer pouty slamming of coffee cups, or huffing behind the morning paper (do those even exist anymore?) as someone says a morning I Love You, or the infamous passive-aggressive “Nope, everything’s fine,” comment, followed by a tense evening over dinner, then breakfast, then the next night’s dinner — until a completely unrelated issue breaks the dam of ill will within the person harboring the resentment.

Yes Indeed. We are terrified to tell people how we truly feel. And we’re even more terrified to tip our hands that god forbid — we may need something.

Even worse, if we can calmly muster up the courage to be accountable for our emotions, and we bring those to another person, we then can be stale-mated with the wall of defensive embarrassment from the individual with whom we may have an issue. There is nothing worse than attempting to relay feelings in a non-aggressive way, only to have the individual we are bearing our souls to — then get nasty because they “feel attacked”.

I find the “feel attacked” response, when delivered to the person who is simply expressing how they are feeling in a non-verbally abusive way, to be fascinating. I myself have been on the other end of that comment, usually after attempting to do my best to rationally bring a behavior to light in another that has been causing repeat issues in our communication.

There is a big difference between “being attacked” and having someone point out that the stick you’re carrying and poking in their eye — is poking their eye out. That’s actually a statement on cause and effect, yet the “I feel attacked” person will make it out to sound like your eye is in the way of their life, their essence — who they are at their core. They will cease to hear the singular grievance at hand and turn the discussion into a discourse on how they are disliked in general. I’ve since found out that that is one of the signs of narcissistic behavior — the inability to accept accountability in any situation, then transferring the Self into a victim role. Yet that’s another blog.

It’s hard for any of us to simply hear that something we’re doing isn’t working for someone else. None of us want to hear that. Everyone’s inner Five Year Old feels embarrassed. The outer adult then creates issues when Pride gets in the way of actually observing and overcoming the behavior that’s causing the embarrassed upset. Notwithstanding verbally abusive relationships, the following are easy-to-read signs that our inner Five Year Old is running to hide in the closet of embarrassment — because it knows we’ve crossed the line and we can’t quite face up to it yet:

Defensiveness: Yes, the bottom-of-the-barrel deal-of-the-day when it comes to emotional reactions — defensiveness is a tale-tell sign that indeed, the other person is actually right. The more defensive we become to defend our behavior that is causing another to stumble — the more we know we shouldn’t be doing it. In fact, the nastier, more argumentative, more interrupting-someone’s-every-other-word-to-make-our-point that we get, the more right they are. To become defensive is to agree in full with the grievance held by the other party.

I’m Being Attacked: No, you’re likely not. You’re just hearing something that you don’t like and it feels icky. That’s not being attacked. That’s being embarrassed. There’s a difference. Each day, thousands of people are horrendously verbally abused by sociopathic people who don’t have any remorse for destroying their inner-most emotionality. There’s a big difference between that, and someone respectfully pointing out behavior we are exhibiting that is causing them pain. Casting one’s self in a victim role, or a role of the one being attacked, after one has been approached with a basic and respectful grievance, is a distraction tool designed to take the focus off of the grievance. It is a sign that one is not prepared to be emotionally accountable, period. It’s a cop-out. For the person attempting to work out the grievance, this is the mental equivalent of talking to a box of hair. It goes nowhere. At least the hair doesn’t blame the scissors for why it’s been cut.

The Shut Down: This is passive-aggressive emotional blackmail at its best.  The Shut Down happens when any issue surrounding our not-so-shiny-spots comes to light. The individual being presented with the issues then shuts down completely, claiming they “can’t deal” with the situation. This can involve the infamous “silent treatment”, a lack of intimacy for an extended period of time (because the person who was approached with a grievance now “doesn’t feel safe”), or a perpetual sulking, punishing, and inward behavior until the other party can’t take it anymore and apologizes for even bringing it up — and the issue then never gets addressed. This is a dirty card to play, and because of it’s manipulative properties, it’s used most in the deck.

The Snark Attack: The parade of nasty, ugly, hideous things that will fly out of a person’s mouth, once they have been embarrassed by the reflection in the mirror someone held up to them — is called a Snark Attack. The person who is attempting to bring the grievance forward will be shot full of holes and dropped to the floor before they can even finish their sentence. This takes Defensiveness to a verbally abusive level and typically, is a horrific version of “I know you are but what am I”.

These Inner Five Year Old responses to conflict will net nothing but pain, confusion, and if they persist — break-ups. The most odd thing about these communication hiccups is the severe emotional reaction of the individual who is repeatedly exhibiting them, once the other party is so beaten down they leave. Often, it is utter shock. The lack of accountability and denial that is necessary to continually be the person who is defensive, the person who constantly feels attacked by life, the person who shuts down all the time, or the person who is a verbal spew of yuck in a Snark Attack, demands a great deal of focus and energy. There is only room for one person in a relationship where all the energy is going toward the self.

On the opposite pole of the communication planet is yet another challenge — the area of proactively speaking out one’s needs. Obviously, people are different and can do the best they can, day to day. Yet if we are not speaking out our needs to our family and friends, and instead becoming resentful in the wake of that which we have not received, we have no one to blame but ourselves. We are told that if we speak out our needs, we are selfish. And worse, we fear that if we do speak out our needs, we’ll be met with Defensiveness, or a Shut Down, or a Snark Attack.

Worse still, sometimes simply speaking our needs is then interpreted by another as a criticism, though it is not about the other person at all. It’s about what we need.

I find the latter to be the case as I sit with couples who are attempting to work through an impasse. For instance, one member of the couple will mention that they wish they were held more by their partner. The other half of the couple will instantly chime in with, “See? They’re not happy with who I am.” I will then be required to point out that the comment was in regard to being held, not the person’s humanity. The person now on the defense will then give me a laundry list of all the things that they DO “do” for the other individual — mow the lawn, go to the grocery store, “I’m the only one who ever does the dishes”, bla bla bla and on and on, and I will simply listen as the individual builds their list of how fantastic they are in the relationship. They will eventually tire. At which point I’m obligated to point out:

“I didn’t see ‘quality cuddle time’ on that list. Did you?”

This is typically met with the “I don’t have time in my busy day (that no one appreciates) that I just recounted to you” rant. I’m then obligated to point out that they do not make the time to cuddle. Because it’s not important to them. And that they should simply admit that it’s not important so the other person truly knows where they stand.

This is usually a stumper.

If the other party admits it’s not a priority for them — this validates their partner’s need to bring it up. Do they admit it’s not a priority? Or do they justify their stance? Usually it’s the latter. More going on and on about how they give, give, give and it’s never enough — give money, give to the kids, give, give , give — to which I’m then obligated to point out that yes, they give, give, give — except in the ONE way their partner truly is requesting, needing it. I also point out that if they’re so busy, busy, busy — wouldn’t it make more sense to cut out the twenty things they’re doing for their partner that the partner could care less about — and pop in the ONE thing that really would make a difference to the other person?

You would think the answer was yes. Yet Pride is an addictive drug. Again, the partner is bringing forward a need, and the person is making it all about themselves. Often the response is, “But what about MY needs? I’m so busy I don’t even have any time for myself.”

To which, my response will often be, “What about your needs? You seem to have difficulty honoring one need belonging to your partner. If you can’t get to one, I’m sure you can’t get to two, no matter whose they are.”

This usually reflects the folly in the situation, and the person’s pride will break enough for some humility and some humanity to show through. I’ll often be asked: “Where do I find the time in my day?”

To which I’ll respond, “Take it away from facebook. But this not about time. It’s about your willingness to give that which you yourself do not require. It’s about being selfless.”

The bottom line is that changing our behavior into that which would benefit another is not about time. It’s about emotional willingness to factor in someone else’s needs. People call this resistance to change “being stubborn”, but it is not — not in this context. It is being fearful of letting in anyone else’s needs, because the person doesn’t truly feel they can meet their own needs. Often, the people who are the most resistant to changing personal behaviors in order to factor in differing behaviors to account for another’s needs — have a very difficult time committing to themselves in one way or another. These folks may have unfinished projects laying all over the house, or perhaps weight they claim they can’t lose, or unfinished books marked with unopened bills from 1998.

A lack of selflessness in a person is a sign of a great deal of personal neglect. Until we love the self fully, we don’t know how to make room to love another, especially if it’s in a different way that’s not convenient for us. That requires growth on our part.

Selflessness is the act of doing something for another that you yourself won’t directly benefit from. Yet the growth it brings always reaps benefits. For instance, my wife works very early hours, in the fitness industry. I will choose to go to bed early with her because that personal time is very important to us as a couple and I love to fall asleep with her — if I can. Sometimes I will get up and continue to work after she falls asleep because my body clock is more attuned for late nights, and simply won’t go to sleep. But I’ve done my best to turn it around so we can spend more quality time together. Personally, it’s of no bonus or benefit to me to turn my body clock around. As a couple, it makes a huge difference to US. So this is something I regularly work on. I’ve also benefitted by having more time in the day to use productively, which has been a great side-effect of growth.

Now, tonight, I’m not doing so well with it, at 2:39am. But it’s a process I choose to keep working on.

To truly love another, we must GROW beyond who we were when we started into the relationship. We must change, to become a WE, rather than a ME. Who we bring (as ourselves) into the relationship is important. But who we choose to BECOME while humbly and diligently committing ourselves, our hearts, and our lives to another, while they do the same — is far, far more desirable.

There is a great myth that by bending, changing, compromising and growing in relationship — we lose the self. That’s not true. When there is balance with another, the self is finally able to release and relax into it’s full potential as we no longer require the Ego Fence to define who we are, thanks to a partner that will give us regular feedback and provide us a place to rest.

Anyone who gets into a relationship and says, “I’m not going to let this relationship change me,” is missing the point of what a healthy, TRUE, loving, reciprocal, spiritual relationship is all about.

It’s not a pissing contest or a border war. It’s a blending project. This takes a great deal of communication.

So this Valentine’s Day — and every day — give yourself, and your loved ones, the gift of YOU. Communicate freely and openly. Be honest yet be kind. Listen when others air grievances, and give the grievance your compassion instead of your defensiveness. Replace “The Problem With You Is”, “I Can’t Deal With It”, and “I Won’t” with — “I’m Sorry”. Compromise. Do something for another just because they need it, not because you’ll benefit, or not just when it’s convenient for you. See the day through another’s perspective, to see life from a broader persepcetive. Remove the self —

To find the self.

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Want to Know If There’s Life on Mars? I’ve Got Photos…

So never start to read the internet at 5:30am when you’re attempting to get back to sleep. You’ll find something that invariably raises your hackles, and then you’ll do what I did — Spend the last five hours compiling images from research I did about three years ago, all on the Mars Rover missions.

Why, you may ask, did I have such a compulsive melt-down? One key phrase says it all: Lack of Information.

I swear to goodness, America — I love living here. I love being an American. But honestly, gang — if we get any more complacent we may as well be sleep walking. Any country that deifies Duck Dynasty and Honey Boo Boo deserves its misinformation. That being said, I do my best to try and balance that lack of information out, though I’m only one small Psychic human blogging from amidst a very, very large Big Sky State.

I’d wager to say that most folks nowadays, during the latter part of 2014, are aware that we are not the only beings in the Universe. I would also wager to say that most folks nowadays are even open to the idea that a humanoid, or human-like, species may have been around for quite some time prior to ending up on this lovely planet we call earth.

Of course, evolving on earth has made Human Beings our own special blend of grey area and “what the heck happened there?” But that’s another blog for another time. This blog is all about Mars. And it’s going to be a rather bullet-point piece because thankfully for everyone involved — it’s graphic heavy. So I’ll let the photos speak for themselves.

Here are the cliff notes, all research-based and also observations I’ve pulled from the ethers as well as our Off-World community:

1) YES, Mars had (and has) life.

2) YES, part of our gene pool migrated here.

3) YES, Mars used to be in the Goldie Locks Zone in space that the earth now occupies, thus allowing us to maintain our atmosphere.

4) YES, through the natural progression of the Universe and solar system expanding, coupled with a big wormhole “push” from some Offworld Cultures that were traveling through the sun’s gravitational atmosphere at that time — Mars lost its awesome hot spot and we took it’s place. Bummer for Mars. Awesome for us. Envision a croquet ball being knocked away from the scoring peg. (Now you have it!)

5) YES, NASA is very aware that there was (is) life on Mars. Which is why they are obsessed with colonizing it. In 2013 they were in the process of recruiting to doing so through a private company. Think about it. Human beings never want ANYTHING unless someone else has it first, and is currently using it.

6) YES, Martians were  / are real.

7) YES, we are a very small part “Martian”. Our genome isn’t completely original to earth though has evolved hugely here thanks to the mix-in of other Offworld races as well as out own life that sprung up. Earth is like the USA. It’s a huge melting pot. What happens on earth– stays on earth. Like Vegas.

8)  YES, there are archeological markers on Mars that show that sentient folks once lived there.

9) YES, I’ve compiled some of those here thanks to the Mars Rover missions.

10) YES, the are lame-o hoaxes and silly conspiracy theories out there. It still doesn’t change the facts. It just makes them sound lame-o and conspiracy-driven.

11), YES, I’ve been talking about the Mars artifacts being made public for the past two years. In fact, they have been. Hiding in plain site on NASA’s Mars Rover page, so check them all out yourself when you get a chance. NASA is brilliant for posting nearly everything they have (Except for the big photos of huge stone structures. That would wig people out a little too much.) because it’s a sea of reddish photos that anyone with a thinking mind would want to bail out of, rather than comb through.

12) YES, I was drawn to certain images on the Mars Rover site that out of the bazillion of them — contained very pertinent information. Thank the angels and guides for that assist. Personally, my eyes were crossing at what looked like an endless stream of photos from a family vacation at the Mojave.

13) YES, there is still life on Mars, though they took to living in a subterraneous manner because of the atmospheric hiccups.

14) YES, NASA has pictures of them interacting with the Rovers.

15) NO, the photos of Mars life interacting with Rovers are not posted on NASA’s Mars Rover website.

16) YES, they look like weird Disney-creature selfies during a break-out scene of “Despicable Me”. Not everything in the Universe is terrifying, folks.

17) YES, there is a LOT of very viable information online from people just like me who are wonky enough tot actually take the time (or be directed to post) this information, in order to prepare folks for actually meeting our OffWorld buddies face to face. Let’s all not act surprised when that happens, okay? That will be more awkward than Americans who travel abroad and claim that they thought France was owned by Canada.

Now let’s get to the best part — the photos! Because one doesn’t spend a few years compiling this stuff, and hours putting it together, just because it’s fun. Well, it was fun. But I’m just saying. There’s a purpose here, people.

On to it.

Mars doesn’t have water, huh?

Mars-water-BLOGI’m not saying there isn’t methane on Mars. There is. I’m not sayinf there aren’t other substances like Oxygen that can make a watery-like substance. There are. What I’m saying is that this is WATER.

It that it takes a TON of pressure, gravity, and / or heat to compress methane into a pool. Mars has none of those ingredients. We have methane pools at the bottom of the ocean where billions of tons of pressure form it into a liquid. Venus is 900 degrees on the surface and is a stinnky and toxic methane pit. Mars isn’t packing that kind of push. Where there is water, there is life. Again, back to the part about the earth colonizing ove there. We never go anywhere that isn’t beneficial for us. At least NASA is claiming that Mars “may” have water on it, or had it in the past, and it’s now all in ice.

Except for that ground water puddle there.

We are the only intelligent life that has ever, ever, ever investigated Mars — and we’ve used robots first.

Well then — this is kinda awkward…


Um… does someone want to explain what in the heck the following items are doing in the photo, taken as a stagnant shot from a passing Rover? Like that OBVIOUSLY drawn-in-the-sand mark, the other one that’s kind of worn away, and those two footprints in the foregound?

If you spend time with the Mars Rover photos, you’ll easily see that the Rover has a very distinct footprint from it’s tires. And it does all sorts of funky surface investigations — none of which involve drawing squigglies in the sand.

Anyone? Anyone? Bueller?


Mars-Footprints-BLOGAgain. Awkward.

There has never been any intelligent life on Mars.



This is a screen shot of an image that grabbed my attention so hard that I had a full-on jaw-drop moment. Maybe it’s the fact thatI grew up in Montana and can spot a petroglyph a mile away through dirty binoculars, or maybe it’s that I can track a sentient energy signature from ten parsects away — but check this out. I zoomed in and jacked up the contrast on the lines in the photo, and lookie here:




Please feel free to share this with anyone who won’t accuse you of wearing a tinfoil hat. And please visit NASA’s website whihc actually provides all of these awesome original hi-res photos for your persusal — . You can have fun like I did, finding all sorts of stuff.

That is, if you don’t mind staring at hundreds of red photos full of red rocks. That’s kind of a buzzkill. But remember — they can’t say they didn’t tell us.

We can only say we didn’t look.

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The Power of Surrender: What to DO with Your Emotionality

I’m not sure why, but human beings have a very difficult time with the wild ride called “uncontrollable emotion”. We pay big bucks to go sit on a roller coaster at Six Flags but when that roller coaster is within us, we panic.

Talk about wanting life both ways.

This becomes very challenging when we are in a timeframe such as — well — right now, which is heavy on “going with the flow” and resistant to “creating the flow”. Of course, we need to be participants in our own lives and make sure that we’re not sitting on our box of bons bons wishing a glittery unicorn would bring us a winning lottery number. (That’s just scary and usually requires a handful of special mushrooms to truly experience.) Yet there is a fine balance between pushing the river — which is silly considering the predominant current will take the river downhill at the speed at which it is intended — and sitting back and doing nothing to the point where “nothing” is the result.

Remember: In this life, WHO we are is defined as WHAT we ARE — or, what we do day to day, with our intentions.

Now, as an observer of all energy signatures, I do find this persistent conundrum within our fabulous human species to be rather fascinating. We crave excitement, variance, and change, and yet we deeply fear all three. We crave deep emotional and physical intimacy, oneness and crazy spontaneous moments, yet to achieve all three — we must give control over to something else besides ourselves. We want, yet we are afraid to HAVE.

What is that about?

Well – it’s about learning that we’re not the biggest, baddest, smartest, most awesome-sauce rad-dog thing in the Universe. It’s about humility, and patience.

It’s about TRUST, the most difficult of all emotions to trust the self not to squander — on the self. We have a heckuva time trusting ourselves not to let ourselves down. If we can’t trust ourselves — how can we trust another not to decimate our most delicate inner workings? We’re pretty good at being self-destructive, so others must be even better, right? …Good heavens.

This puzzle of our soul yearning for deep connection, yet our fearing the depth and what we see as “consequences” of this connection — is about the lesson of release.

This is a great lesson. It’s an awesome thing to achieve. And it’s incredibly doable. Darkness, however, would have you believe that release, surrender, and “going with the flow” are all signs of being an emotional wimp, a doormat, and ineffective in the “Looking Out For #1” conquering methodology that was literally put on the back burner for the next 100,000 years after the transcendence marker of December 21st 2012, where humanity went from a 100,000 year masculine conquering and dominion strength cycle into a 100,000 year feminine support, nurturance and strength cycle.

There are reasons for everything. We must have balance in the act of conquering and then the act of nurturing and supporting what we have built. Without balance we falter. Thus it goes within the Self.

The word “surrender” has gotten a really, really, really bad rap (yep, it needed three “reallys”) under the 100,000 year masculine cycle. To most of we mere mortals, “to surrender” means “to give up”. Actually, the Spiritual Physics surrounding the action of surrender would indicate something completely different. “To Surrender” is an action that is on the offense, not an inaction on the defense. In fact, “to surrender”, in the language of Spiritual Physics, actually means “dissolve into the predominant flow”.

I’m sort of a language nut, being the Universal Translator that I am, and I regularly find it interesting that we will take words and completely misuse them over time depending on the cultural implication given to the word. (That shouldn’t really be that interesting, but I’m kinda nerdy that way, so bear with me. It gets kind of cool.)

Here’s the deal with “surrender”:

From an English language standpoint, the word “surrender”, as we currently utilize it, first came onto the scene in the 15th century. The concept as we now recognize it didn’t really exist until then, which makes sense considering the assimilation-and-dominion-driven development cycle of human society in the 1400’s.  (Always consider the context, people.) The word “surrender” derives from the middle English “surrende” which comes from Anglo-French (Originally surrendre, susrendre) “to relinquish”, adding sur- & sus-, suzunder + rendre — which means “to give back” (from Merriam-Webster). “To surrender” actually meant to relinquish and to give back. There’s a big difference between that meaning, energetically, and the modern use of the word, which according to ol’ Merriam-Webster is:

  1. to agree to stop fighting, hiding, resisting, etc., because you know that you will not win or succeed
  2. to give the control or use of (something) to someone else
  3. to allow something (such as a habit or desire) to influence or control you

Considering the original meaning of “surrender” is more closely related to the modern use of the word “to return” (to relinquish and give back) rather than the dominion-and ego-driven definition of “to control you” — you can see how confusing this whole idea about “going with the flow” can be for people. Seriously.

Again — there are reasons for everything. Darkness recognized that if we actually understood the meaning of “surrender”, we would then be able to dissolve into All That Is, accessing every bit of energetic information in the current, then able to extract an amazing understanding and game plan from that perspective. But that logic, patience, compassion and understanding is really hard to control by those who crave control over the masses, so let’s make sure that we all think that Surrender is what weak ol’ wieners do when they are bested.


Darkness must appeal to insecurities and ego in order for us to take out greatest strength offline. We disable ourselves. No one but us is capable of this action. So, in an effort to take back the understanding of a very powerful energy signature that has been redefined to the point of camouflaging it’s true power, let’s re-learn what the word “surrender” means:

To surrender is the conscious action of returning something. We return something because it does not fit us, suite us, or was a wrong purchase to begin with. Not because it has bested us.

If that’s the case, then the entire Kohl’s summer line bested me, as I returned a lot of stuff. So clearly, I am unable to stand up to a tank top.

Yep. The mistranslation is that inane.

To surrender is to “return,” or “return to”. Think back to the scene in the original Star Wars where Obi Wan Kenobi is fighting with Darth Vader using light sabers. It’s the big awesome show-down where good meets evil. At a certain point, Obi Wan figures out that there is greater power on the other side of The Force — so he lifts up his light saber and Darth Vader makes the death swipe, to the audience’s horror. It looks like Obi Wan is giving up. It looks like he is surrendering. Yet once Darth makes that swipe, there is no blood or gore, as Obi Wan disappears completely into All That Is, because he was aware that in the fight against good and evil, his most effective power play would be TO RETURN TO the other side.

I’m not suggesting we allow ourselves to be victimized, always dropping the light saber so bullies can take us down while we wallop them from heaven. There is obviously a time to stand one’s ground and fight back, or to stand in the gap for those who suffer and cannot find their own light sabers in the battle of evil against good. (I put it in that order because Good never feels the need to fight Evil. That’s Evil’s kink.)

What I am making the distinction between — is the action of laying down and dying, and surrendering, or returning that which does not suit us. They are two different energy signatures. They are two different intentions.

There is great power, great awareness, and great advantage in giving back to the Universe that which no longer suits us in order to become part of what is — mostly, because it takes the struggle away and allows us to redirect all of the energy of fighting the current into not only the observation of what is trying to happen around us (that is NOT within our design), but in being able to save our reserves to take action again, once the window of opportunity actually presents itself. We often think we are observing a fantastic window opening, in which we are able to take action — and sometimes, that’s true. More often than not, “the window” is just wishful thinking based upon our own needs as we try and scrunch a square peg into a round hole, all the while convincing ourselves that it’s meant to fit at that moment because as a human race, we’ve all got our Doctorate Degrees in Peg Scrunching.

I realize the following information may be a mind-bender, but the Universe is not actually functioning on our individual timelines, no matter how many mantras and vision boards and affirmations we put into the ethers. I know. It’s Inconvenient. But it’s best for all of us, in the long run, that The Machine functions for the benefit of ALL — not just you or me. We actually win bigger with the collective doing well. Again, a real mind-bender for the Ego-Drunken “Looking Out For #1” human consciousness.

We wish to achieve a deep oneness with one another, spiritually, sexually, intellectually, emotionally, and socially — yet we fear the process of sinking into one another. We fear we will be hurt, as others have hurt us in the past by running us through with our own trust we have granted them. We take snapshots from the past and we decorate the landscape of our future, designing our future with patchwork wallpaper made from ten-year-old images capturing our most painful moments.

We live in the fear of past pain, rather than the excited potential of The Now. We don’t understand that when we are upon an instance that represents what we have always wanted — the job that finally came through, the person who accepted our marriage proposal, the child one is pregnant with that has evaded being born for so long — we often clench down emotionally because we know that in order to grow, and experience, and live within our most precious and sought-after dreams —

— we must surrender our old patterns and ideals. We must give them back to the Universe and thank the Universe for the lessons they have brought to us.

We must surrender ourselves to the situation. We must return to that which we always knew, deep within our soul, was best for our highest development, and that we have finally been gifted with, in the now.

We must surrender — or return to — the flow, to return to the current which carries nourishment to all things, a current not by our design, a current that greater, and wiser, than our own understanding of direction.

We must surrender — or return to — our original Operating System of love. Not fear. Fear is learned. Love is intrinsic to our Design. It is our birthright. We are born knowing how to love. We un-learn this most base of instincts, confusing “love” with “pain”.

How do we surrender? How do we “Return To”? The answer is both unbelievably simple and very challenging at the same time.

We decide to return. And then we act on that decision, to do our very best day to day to pay attention to the dysfunctional behaviors that we have taught ourselves that create distance with others. And then, once these behaviors have our attention — we do our very best, day to day, to over-write them with ACTIONS of deep connection.

We decide to act in a new manner rather than reacting with an old behavioral pattern.

We decide to accept that our idea of “pain” is not the Universe’s definition of “the future”.

We decide to forgive ourselves for “back-sliding” while making the decision to unlearn behaviors that no longer suite us — in order to Return To those behaviors that do. We grant ourselves the slack we give to our friends and family while they are going through a rough patch.

We forgive the self.

There is great power, wisdom, and peace in Surrender, as it was originally intended — as there is great power, wisdom and peace in returning that which no longer suits us.

Sink into all that is. Find peace in your life through the beautiful flow all around you that was never designed to cause chaos. (That’s out own creative input.) Surrender to — return to — the operating system of ultimate provision and love. It is no one’s job but our own to TRUST. And no amount of Angels, guides, or even God Itself — will force this choice upon us. Nor will the Universe attempt to convince us it’s a good idea through “proving” to us that The Universe will not hurt us. The Universe has nothing to prove to us. It has never hurt us. We have hurt ourselves and others, and in this — we challenge ourselves not to compromise our hearts, our minds, and our spirits.

When we shake our “angry fist at God” — we are actually shaking our fist at ourselves. Universe is always there for us. Period.

We forsake ourselves. And we have 100% control over whether we choose to do this or not. Return to trust — mostly, of the self.

Within that trust there lies great freedom and Peace.

Within that Peace — everything changes.

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Love: Our Design or Our Choice?

I’m a water sign (Pisces with a Cancer rising and Leo moon) and therefore I’m prone to live the credo of love. That means if there’s no love present, neither am I. This isn’t necessarily even specifically related to romantic relationships. You hear all the time the phrase, “Where’s the love?” If there’s no love to be found, be it for a neighbor, a flowerbed, a job, a general way of looking at life, or even just for the self — I’m out.

It’s not that I’m trying to be a fickle pain in the tuckus who is chasing a glitter-dipped unicorn ridden by Cupid wearing Justin Bieber’s hair. It’s simply that love in its very essence happens to be my operating system and I readily and warmly acknowledge this fact. This, I thought, was a fairly universal trait amongst Humans.

Not so much.

Now, let it be said that Human Beings are built out of Love. The very Spiritual Physics that hold our souls together, the “glue”, the particle matter of the ethers called Our Essence, is made of Love. Not the love that we perceive here on this spinning electromagnet called Earth — a love that is often defined by a wash of chemicals that causes all sorts of amazing physical sensations (which can have one HECK of a nasty withdrawal we call “heartbreak”). I’m referring to a Love that supersedes all precedent for adhesion and acceptance. But I’m getting ahead of myself, so let me back up.

Here’s the deal in Cliff-Notes format because I doubt anyone has the time to sit here and read a War and Peace style expose of the layered dynamics of Spiritual Physics as applied to Love. Even if you had the time, I’d never put even an enemy in such a droll position. So here we go with the cliffy-note version:

Eons ago, Darkness learned that the Chemistry of Love is the most powerful force in the Universe. It realized that in order to gain any foothold in any environment where Love existed, such as our lovely third dimension, It needed to convince anyone who would be designed out of the ingredients of Love that the Love was not real. I mean, c’mon — if I’m carrying a pistol and I’ve been taught that the bullets in my pocket are instead Reese’s Pieces, then that gun is going to be good for nothing but a pencil holder.

So here goes Darkness, convincing every Human Being on the planet that their base design — Love — is not only a myth, but isn’t real anyway. There are many ways in which Darkness has achieved this most fascinating dupe. First and foremost, let’s put some focus on the “Sin” myth that many religions love to beat to death. This modality states that Human Beings are indeed not full of Love, but full of Sin. What’s weird about this statement is that not only is it NOT true, but it’s not even grammatically accurate. “Sin” is a Roman Archery Term. It means to “miss the mark”. So Human Beings are full of Missing The Mark? Sure, I can buy that for a dollar (to quote the original Robo Cop.) But even if we’re full of missing the mark (or Maker’s Mark, depending on who you are), that still doesn’t mention what we’re full OF. It just mentions what we’re prone to doing. So not only has Darkness scored points on getting an entire species to buy into the thought process that we’re not only missing something — but we’re doing so in a way that’s not even grammatically possible. That takes a LOT of generational spiritual mutation. Yet thousands of Human generations later — here we are, hearts and identities all stitched together from leftover ideologies like a demented Frankenstein quilt, believing we were nothing more than scrap patchwork to begin with.

It’s sad.

For those that figured out along the way that being a sin-filled loser was probably not what God had in mind when God created the endlessly creative species called Humanity (in God’s own Impression, nonetheless) — Darkness cooked up Plan B. Plan B is a fascinating cocktail made of pain and disappointment called “Bitterness”. This elixir is especially acidic and will burn like crazy when poured directly on an open wound, particularly one centered in the heart. So folks will lead out in hopeful connection with another and if they experience disappointment in life — whether it be through romance, work, or simply friendship — here comes this dump truck full of toxic Bitterness to be poured all over the gaping open wound of the heart. When Bitterness hits the spirit, it burns into the nature of what we’re made of, causing Spiritual Scar Tissue that toughens the supple surface of our soul. Once toughened, the soul loses some of its sensitivity until the scar tissue sloughs off over time. Time heals, right? Well yes, except for the kicker: Darkness placed within the Elixir of Bitterness an addictive agent that causes the healing soul to crave the burn. Within the Bitterness is an emotional narcotic, an addiction to the pain. As we heal, we begin to crave the burn. So we make sure to order up another dump truck full of the Elixir of Bitterness and scald our soul all over again. This addictive property within the Elixir of Bitterness is one of the reasons that kicking bitterness is more difficult than many physical addictions. It requires a great deal of behavior modification and redirection from the withdrawal symptoms caused by the soul decontaminating as it heals past the damaged tissue. Bitterness is a tough addiction to break but it’s very possible. It just takes a little awareness and a little work.

For those that get a handle on their addiction to Bitterness, realizing along the way that being twisted up by pain like a raging pretzel is likely not the most effective way to muddle though life — Darkness has concocted Plan C: The Illusion of Separation. This puppy is a thorn in the side of most people who have pretty much decided that though they may have a few things to work on, they’re not a patchwork sin quilt, and they’ve also gotten over their bitter period after choking on enough Alanis Morisette to cure anybody. The Illusion of Separation is a toughie to identify because it’s hard to know what’s real or what’s not real when you’re in The Dream. This entire reality is what we dream up day after day. It’s the end result of my dream overlapping with your dream overlapping with his and her dream — if there ever was a quilt, it would be the quilt of dreams that rolls out in this incarnation. We call this quilt of dreams “Reality” — which does not actually exist. “Reality” is simply the agreed upon section of the quilt, or dream, that we decide is the “safe base” in the middle of this endless cycle of creation. Confused? That’s what Darkness is counting on in order to really enact Plan C, or the Illusion of Separation. Plan C gets a little wonky, sort of like trying to decipher a 1099 Tax form as opposed to the insty W-2’s, so Plan C gets two whole paragraphs.

The Illusion of Separation works because we are unclear on what being connected to Source, or God, actually feels like. We’re unclear because we’ve been taught that the bullets in our pocket are Reese’s Pieces. (And no, I’m not trying to equivocate God with gun violence. It’s the most absurdly obvious comparison I can currently muster.) We’re unclear because we’ve been taught an absurd idea of God — some judgy weirdo that lords over everybody like a frat house hazing committee, disqualifying each person on technicalities because they’re not cool enough to get into heaven. That’s not God. That’s a Human personification of God enacted by the a collective part of The Dream that is still trying to get picked for the kickball team, so they’d better create a god that’s petty enough NOT to pick people. That way, when their version of god picks THEM according to their interpretation of “the rules”, they can feel special — just like the dude who gets into Theta Cappa WhoCares after eating a goat turd. Now that’s an accomplishment. (And it looks like Plan C is going to get three paragraphs.)

The Illusion of Separation hinges on the fact that Darkness has worked hard to disrupt our connection with Source, or God. Though it’s outside of Darkness’ ability to ACTUALLY disrupt our connection to Source, or God — or as it’s known, LOVE — it can certainly distract us by pointing us in the direction of our own insecurities long enough to keep us wandering the hallways of our own discontent like some poor mental patient pinging against the asylum walls looking for the bathroom while the Rob Zombie lights flicker overhead.  The Dream has created a “reality” where we’ve forgotten that connection to Source / God / Love is instantaneous. That connection is part of our Fabric of Love, our very Being, our very Spiritual Make-up. It is ignited by the thrill of laughter. It resides in the excitement of a phone call placed by a loved one. It is in the heart-stopping beauty of the light emblazoning a sunrise, or the glowing explosion of clouds burning at sunset. It’s the whisper of peace in the moonlight, the rolling giggle of a child’s abandon, or the touch of a friend. It’s the look in the eyes of someone who truly understands us, even for one moment. It’s the lulling song of the ocean waves that puts us to sleep on the beach. It’s the sound of rain on the roof that reminds us how small and how safe we are at the same time. It’s the massage to the ears as the wind whisks through pine trees and the bodily explosion as we connect with the one that we love enough to build our life with. It is the warmth that grows in our stomach when we give something to someone else and expect nothing in return. It is the smile from a stranger, the compassion given in a moment we don’t expect it, the bloom of a flower, the encouragement in an email. Our connection to LOVE, to God, to Source — is omnipresent. It never ceases. It never wanes. It is in our breathe, our words, our actions. IT IS US.

Yet we are convinced it doesn’t exist. Absolutely convinced. We can’t even identify God / Source. Simply because we have chosen the lesson of separation through the Illusion of the Dream.

There are those who are seeing past this Illusion. Darkness’ dreaded and effective Plan C is coming to a crashing halt. 2014 is the Year of Illumination. This year holds all the spiritual ingredients for each one of use to be known for not only exactly who we are — good, bad, indifferent or ugly — but for each one of us to KNOW our connection to Source / God / Love is REAL. The time for Illusion has passed. The 20th Century was Illusion’s last big heyday. Though Illusion will still be present, and certainly people will still require and even crave its difficult karmic lessons, more and more people everyday are waking from The Dream and realizing that indeed — this life is not the tail that wags the dog, but it is EXACTLY what we make it.

And how thrilling is that?

This means that LOVE finally has its place in the conscious part of our patchwork dream quilt. Finally. It’s somewhat ridiculous to think about — because it would be like saying, “Finally, AIR has a place in our understanding of what keeps us alive!” (No one said Humanity was quick on the draw.) Love — the Spiritual Ingredient not the sensation — is not a choice. It’s a key part of our Design. Just like a chemical building block, an amino acid in a gene sequence, Love is the energetic signature that holds the Human Spirit together. It’s the Spiritual DNA on which everything else we are is built upon — physically, emotionally, intellectually, and of course — spiritually. Love is not optional in our survival, just as air is not optional. Just as water is not optional. We may not like the taste of the tap water but if it’s all we have, then we better dang well drink it, or we’re dead. In the same way, we may not like the idea that we are reliant on Love to live. But without it — we die.

This scenario has been played out with small children in a gruesome way. A phenomenon called Failure to Thrive occurs when a child is not touched and is repeatedly ignored. If never touched, the child will quite literally — die. If that’s not proof enough for anyone that Love is a key component in our design which directly affects our survival, then The Dream has been replaced with The Illusion. And that’s its own living Karmic Hell.

Many who are still addicted to the Illusion of Separation feel the need to categorize the nature of Love in order to control it. Again, this goes back to a last ditch attempt by Darkness to keep Plan C rolling as long as It can until The Year of Illumination kicks it to the curb. We see this futile exercise in controlling Love demonstrated by those who attempt to decide who can get married and who can’t. These folks attempt to dictate that there is some sort of “difference” in heterosexual love and homosexual love. The marriage equality issue is blowing up headlines across the USA as state after state acknowledges the utter ridiculousness in attempting to administrate Love. They may as well administrate who is qualified enough to breathe air. Is there heterosexual air and homosexual air?  I’d like to see who gets appointed to THAT congressional hot-air committee.

Love is not a choice. Who we love is not a choice. What we do about how we feel about someone is most definitely a choice, especially if the love we feel for someone isn’t reciprocated. If we keep hanging in there after we’ve been politely informed that our feelings are not shared, then we become a stalker, and that’s not about love, but about control and desperation. Again, Darkness enacts Plan C in the “name of love”.

Love is our Design. It’s our soul food. It’s our base Spiritual Protein in our Celestial DNA. We can’t even choose NOT to love. It’s simply what we do. Because it’s what we are. We just THINK we’re something else. We agonize in loneliness because we have bought into the Illusion that Love can only be felt through the association with a partner. Surely, Humanity is not designed to be alone. Otherwise, our soul would not have the need for a community-based physical experience where we are born into a body that is grown INSIDE OF SOMEONE ELSE. If our design did not include others, we would simply be an autonomous soul floating individually out in space, learning all there is to learn from the burp of endless Pulsars. Most all of us desire partnership. That, too, is our spiritual design as well as a biological imperative that makes sure that the species continues to propagate.

However, the “agonizing in loneliness” part isn’t necessary, though we all do it at one time or another. It’s how we try on the Illusion of Separation to see if it’s going to work for us. We desperately miss that “connection” with another person and we mistake that for LOVE. Indeed, that connection can BE love. It can also be connection with Self and with Source (through creativity, through helping others, through work, through friendship). Okay, sure, that doesn’t keep a person warm at night — initially. But with a little tweaking of the lense through which we view our life, we begin to see that there is GREAT connection and a feeling of completion in simply being in Peace with our Design.

This is what Buddhists call Nirvana and what Christians call being Filled With The Holy Spirit.

When we agonize in loneliness, we are convinced that we will never have partnership. What causes us agony is not being “lonely” — which is an enormous inconvenience and many times a real and unpleasant chemical reaction in the brain if one is going through a “break up”. The agony of the spirit comes from our buying into the Illusion that we will NEVER have connection. We literally create a future based upon our worst fears, a prison of perceptions, and we live in it. We base this prison off of our past experiences which involve having no one around in a romantic capacity. And instead of shifting our lense and our focus to the rest of our existence, which is ultimately connected in every way — we fixate on the one portion of the painting that is missing the color that is our favorite.

Certainly, nearly every Human Being craves a romantic partner. Again, that’s part of our Design. Some people are blessed with partnership at a young age that lasts until their last breath. Others rack up a lifetime of experiences until that “right person” comes along. Yet how we handle the time in between finding this “just right” individual is up to us. We may agonize through the time under the guise of “never”, or we may enjoy every connection we have with Creation in our unlimited connection to LOVE until this person arrives. How we choose to experience our life is completely up to us.

Love is our Fabric of Being. We don’t need to learn to love. We need to unlearn how to ignore what we are. It’s been ingrained in the Human Species for thousands of years, this disassociation from the Self. Yet we are thawing out, our extremities tingling with sensation once again as our Consciousness and our Collective Spirit thaw from a deep and long winter — which never actually existed.

You are not a choice. You are. Love is not a choice. It is. Be what you are. That’s the way it is.

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Fear Consciousness: How To Ruin Everything, and You Can Too!

I swear to God in Heaven, or wherever God seems to be hanging out these days — I’m sort of thinking maybe It’s hanging out at a Cinnabon, because of the smell, but whatever — I swear to God in Cinnabon that someone has hijacked a tanker full of Fear and poured it into the water supply. No, really. It’s the only rational reason I can drum up for the “Brains!” style Zombie-esque addiction to Fear that the second half of 2013 has brought into the spotlight. And I’m not talking the garden variety “Ew, yuck! A spider!” kind of fear. I’m talking about the kind of fear that ends careers, ends friendships, end marriages — sheesh, it ends sentences if anyone will let it.

Fear is a fascinating little pain in the keester. From a biological standpoint, fear is very positive. We sense danger, and run, thus forwarding the progression of our lives. And certainly, sometimes people suffering from different mental illnesses will be dealt the challenge of struggling with Fear past a rational point.

However, when applying Fear to the spiritual landscape, it’s more like a can of worms the size of the HAARP Array is peeled open, attracting stray cats from six countries as they mistake the huge, popping sound as some calling card for recycled fish innards. Fear has been the topic of many a guru’s DVD set: How to overcome it, how to identify it, how to make it your friend, how to use it to your advantage — I’m pretty sure if we just keep going, Fear will have it’s own cooking show. (Oh, wait — that’s Gordon Ramsay’s gig. Nevermind.) The fact is, Fear is a symptom of a much larger problem. And as much as I love tie-ins to fish innards, I’d best get to the point.

In the 2013 Year of Polarization, the name of the game is being known for who and what we are. Now, if someone is a real piece of work, this poses some problems, because the shine-you-on smile won’t necessarily float in the heavy polarization energies. Moreover, people simply won’t be able to keep the smile up. So whomever we really are — good, bad, ugly, high maintenance, saint-like — will be how we present ourselves. We can’t help it. The greater energies dictate this action in order to prepare us for 2014’s Year of Illumination, where whatever we have reaped to this point gets a big old spotlight shown upon it so we can see what our choices have net us.

No pressure.

During all this polarization and this having our masks ripped from our ears at breakneck pace, many people fall prey to an uncomfortable sensation: Being known for who and what they really are. This is scary for most mere mortals considering that society molds us to be exactly what IT thinks we should be, so who truly knows who and what we are, underneath the hood?

And we wonder why the pharmaceutical companies love the USA.

Enter Fear Consciousness, the bastard stepchild of Self-Defeat and Self-Loathing. Fear Consciousness truly is contagious. I joke about it’s spread being blamed on the water supply, but I’d be more accurate to report that the spread of Fear Consciousness is much like a cold — word of mouth.

Human beings must be taught to be afraid, outside of biological fear triggers (like, you know — drowning.) Fear Consciousness is a state of mind which is often an infection of attitude first, then becomes a sickness of spirit. To remain in Fear means to view everything in one’s life as if it is making an offensive action toward the person feeling continually threatened. It’s the process of recreating everything in one’s life to appear the predator. It’s relegating oneself to being the ultimate victim. I say “ultimate” because there is nothing more claustrophobic or terrifying than being trapped in your own skin. By your own skin.

Why would one want to trap themselves in a never-ending nightmare of predation and claustrophobia? Well, because as long as I’m trapped on the inside of my noggin, nothing can get me in here, don’t you know. Fear Consciousness is the ultimate control exercise. If one views everything as ‘out to get them’, they’ve already decided their fate: To be hosed, to be taken advantage of, etc and so on. You see, trusting someone, or something, demands that one accepts variables that are outside of one’s control, like someone else’s behavior, or personal advances, or work plans, or driving routes. The minute we take fear off the table, we can’t control how we feel about something until we’re right there, experiencing it.

And, well — who wants their bum hanging out in the breeze to THAT extent?

Symptoms of Fear Consciousness include extreme paranoia, bitterness, anger, isolation, blame, and if left to fester in it’s own dark pit — hatred itself. Fear Consciousness is one of the favorite menu items at Chez Darkness. Chaotic Darkness, a much more PC term for “Evil”, eats chaos and pain. So those who dedicate a life to Fear Consciousness are usually at the top of the list of Favorite Snacks by ethereal creepy crawlies everywhere. The sad part is that those who suffer from Fear Consciousness — and I do say “suffer” because enacting Fear 24 / 7 is hell to pay on the lymph nodes, pituitary system, stomach, adrenal glands, and heart — don’t notice that a majority of their energy is being siphoned off by some Dark Passenger that views the individual as a free pass to the Golden Coral.

Fear Consciousness is a bad habit that becomes addictive because upon first glance, it is safe. Many standard-issue Snares of Darkness have this same up-front camoflage. It goes like this:

After a bad break-up, Mary decides that dating then gains her nothing but emotional pain. She decides she’s going to be afraid of having partnership. Thus, she’s alone a lot of the time. While alone, Mary is lonely, and rather than acknowledging that she was the one who decided she should be alone in the first place instead of giving Jack or Bob or Ralph a chance, she decides that the world sucks. She forgets altogether that she has the option to trust someone. Why trust? That’s no fun. And certainly, it’s not very predictable, and it’s that nasty free-will that broke her heart in the first place. The relationship that Mary has now formed with her own misery is extremely predictable. It can’t hurt her any more than she allows it. And, since Mary is becoming addicted to this new relationship, she’s allowing it to hurt her quite a bit, because this pain is her only form of emotional intimacy. Now that she has her own misery to commiserate with, Mary doesn’t leave the house very often. She sees the world as “out to get her” and she becomes suspect of anyone who wants to hold a door, or ask her out to coffee. What do they REALLY want? Are they out to break up the only stable relationship she has, with her own sense of Fear? No way, Jose! Mary then spirals into this Kathy Bates insanity that involves too much Paula Deen cooking and an extra 75 pounds. When gaining weight, she blames men. In her mind, she becomes the ultimate victim of a caustic system, instead of realizing that every human on earth gains weight when cooking with lard and Haagen Dazs. Soon, Mary has become warped on the inside out, dedicated to the mythology of pain she has created, viewing everything in the world as a predator out to ambush and judge her every move. Mary gets a cat, DVR’s every American Idol, and her friends stop hearing from her. When Jane calls Mary and asks what the deal is, Mary won’t return her calls. Because who knows what Jane really wants? … and Bingo, just like that, Darkness has opened one more all-you-can-eat-pain-buffet at the expense of a perfectly good Human Spirit. Sadly, Mary signed on to own the franchise, and doesn’t even realize she’s serving 56 Billion a year. Thanks, Fear Consciousness!

Watching someone’s life be consumed by Fear Consciousness is much like watching someone be consumed by Meth, or any drug. The addictive behaviors take over aspects of their life that once were filled with connectivity and joy. And, personality changes accompany those who succumb to Fear Consciousness. Since Dark and Light can’t be in the same place at the same time, those who commit their soul to Fear — and that’s how Angelic Life sees it — must eradicate Light in order to hold the mythology of their painful existence alive.

I say “mythology” of their painful existence because Fear Consciousness creates an illusion of terror that the person then chooses to navigate within. It’s like a bad acid trip mixed with a cheesy 90’s video game — it doesn’t make much sense and the graphics are really, really bad. Yet the person experiencing the Fear would argue that it’s Dolby 3D. Much like the person who is a high as a kite on cheap cannabis will tell you that the frozen Sarah Lee Cheesecake is a cuisine masterwork, the person dedicated to the mythology of Fear Consciousness is in it to win it.

Regrettably in my work, I see the spiritual infection known as Fear Consciousness all too often, and upon detecting it’s inky signature, I brace for the impact of someone who really isn’t ready to hear any sort of message at all, or for that matter — receive any help at all. In the world of Fear Consciousness, there is only room for one master, and it’s not Light. This inky cloud also accompanies those who suffer from Can’t Get Out Of Their Own Way syndrome. This syndrome is a career killer for many, a relationship tanker for others, and a general life-ruiner no matter how you slice it.

Can’t Get Out Of Their Own Way Syndrome is one of the more common applications of Fear Consciousness. Symptoms include self-sabotage, like self-defeating behaviors that dive right in between a person’s success and their life path. Can’t Get Out Of Their Own Way Syndrome is a serious career killer for many, who aspire to hold incredible jobs but fall prey to the Fear Consciousness paranoia that dictates their every move like a strung-out tom cat. For instance, now that they have the job they’ve always wanted, it’s too good to be true, so the boss must be untrustworthy. Or out to get them. Or a miscommunication is blown into a reason for mutiny. Or any other host of third-party projections that gives the victim of the disorder a reason to throw trust out the window in lieu of a more familiar bedfellow: Distrust. Those who suffer from Can’t Get Out Of Their Own Way Syndrome will systematically ruin every good opportunity that comes their way, only to recover, and get another opportunity — to then again ruin it, in the same way, but claim they were the victim, every time. Why? Because the underlying Fear Consciousness does not want the competition of boundless opportunities flooding into the person’s life. That may inspire the individual to GET a life outside of Fear. And for Fear, that’s terrifying.

Now there’s an irony.

Like a bacterial infection, Fear Consciousness can be treated with regular and timed doses of Attitude Adjustment. But it’s a long battery of spiritual medication, amd if one dose of Attitude Adjustment is missed, the fear Consciousness takes hold like a super flu and is then again harder to beat back. A stronger dose of Attitude Adjustment is required, and relocation to a better facility to recover — say, from the couch to the city park or a beach for a walk — is often a companion treatment.

Fear Consciousness is curable. Yet the biggest obstacle in the cure is the willingness of the person suffering from the malady to part with the safety of their misery. While under the illusion of Fear Consciousness, one is very safe in the confined oppressiveness of their own small, small world, in which, the script is neatly written to pen anyone with suspect behaviors as the “bad guy”. Such a controllable script enables the spirit to rest — it thinks — in the predictable nature of the flesh prison in which the soul is now entombed.

It’s Spiritual Stockholm Syndrome.

In fact, treating someone who has gone into a full-time relationship with Fear Consciousness is much, much more like deprogramming someone from a cult. The Cult of Limitation (the title of an upcoming book I have coming out — shameless, sad plug) is the key compound where you’ll find most Fear Consciousness members. Like any cult, fear demands that you deal only with those who also deal within its mythologies. Those who aren’t going to play the Fear game are then ostracized. Dark attracts Dark, Light attracts Light. (Opposites only attract on Once someone becomes sucked into the full weight of the cult by surrounding themselves with those who also operate on the same fear Consciousness, it’s very difficult to convey to the individual the allure of trust and opportunity. Much like taking someone out of a straight jacket who has been confined for many days, the victim of fear Consciousness isn’t sure what to do with all that free, unpredictable space. They must be brought back into Light slowly, until they realize that the Light is their primary design, a design they are built to trust.

Fear Consciousness is spreading at the same rate that the Culture of Love is making even more headway. That’s part of the Polarization energies of 2013. One of the most startling realizations I’ve made in this past year is the number of people who simply are incapable of recognizing that their Fear Consciousness is the sole reason their life isn’t moving forward. And it can be dangerous to “pop the bubble” of the person who is fully dedicated to Fear as they lash out and push back when accountability and change become an option.

Darkness never gives up ground without a fight.
One of the most obvious ear-markers of Fear Consciousness is Blame. As long as it’s someone else’s fault, the person who is suffering from this particular addiction to pain won’t have to change any behaviors. Again, the “not me” illusion sets in, and Fear is safe from spiritual eradication.

If you find you have friends or loved ones who are down the rabbit hole in terms of Fear Consciousness, there truly isn’t much you can do about it. It is a RELATIONSHIP between the person who is swimming in the illusion, and the Fear itself. It’s a very real codependency. And just like trying to interrupt the romantic relationship of a codependent person — the messenger is always shot. (Believe me. This year, I’m going to Halloween parties as a piece of Swiss Cheese and I won’t even need a costume.)

The best we can do to assist someone who is drowning in Fear Consciousness is to deal with them in compassion. Anger against Fear brings out rage. Rage against Fear brings out Apathy. Love against Fear melts Fear. And once Fear is melted — the person who has been held captive in the lonely one-person cell within their own skin — will emerge.

During this Polarization energy of 2013, do not be disheartened if your most sincere life-saving ring tossed into the sea of Fear is then lit on fire by someone drowning in Fear Consciousness. It’s not personal. It’s Fear, attempting to guard its real estate. There will be many who will choose the karma (lesson) of learning what it is to be truly isolated, and they will choose self-destruction, career-destruction, relationship-destruction, all fueled by Fear, just to try on the different facets of their own learning. Humans often learn who they are through learning who they are not.

We can do our best to not engage the Fear Consciousness on a day to day basis. Like a Virus of Bacteria, it’s an equal opportunity infector. We keep our spiritual antibodies strong by aligning ourselves with those who also seek Light. By those who live for the WE consciousness, not the ME consciousness. By those who understand communication and forgiveness and by our enacting communication and forgiveness. We keep up our spiritual immune system by aligning ourselves with God Energy — meditation, prayer, baking a cake, writing a song, rocking a child, playing with a pet — and by doing unto others what we would have done unto ourselves. We remind ourselves that our way is indeed, NOT the highway. And we trust. When we’re hurt, we shake it off, and we still trust. And when we’re disappointed once again, we realize it’s not personal, and we STILL trust. Certainly, discernment is part of trusting. Yet there is no discernment in blindly adhering to Fear. Or Anger. Or Blame. Or Paranoia.

Fear Consciousness is a spiritual sickness. And it’s treatable with compassion. Yet there will be those who choose the lesson of going down with the Fear Ship. And we must allow those who make that choice — to experience the consequences of that choice. We can attempt to be a good friend, a good spouse, a good boss. We can attempt a pep talk or a good cry with a pal over a glass of two buck chuck wine. Yet at the end of the day, we are completely incapable of changing another person’s perception, and those truly dedicated to Fear Consciousness will simply overwrite what’s being told to them with a conveniently paranoid script anyway. It’s part of the ailment. Illusion is the Fuel of Fear. Without Illusion, Fear is Powerless.

Being on the other end of someone whose primary relationship is with their own Fear becomes an exhausting task. Continuing to wear the ‘bad guy” costume placed upon us by the person who craves the Illusion of Confrontation then begins to warp our own sense of self. The most loving thing we can do for ourselves as well as someone who is dedicated to their own Fear Consciousness, is to love them. Either from up close — or sometimes, better far away.

We are the body, the breath, the pulse of creation. Our collective consciousness effects the earth, our atmosphere — absolutely everything. When we Fear, water particles retract. When we love, water particles expand. We as a species are in a key time in our development, realizing we are not simply flesh pods working 9 to 5, but a spiritually evolving species straddling a deep cavern where every move we make determines whether we cross into an exploding, enlightened, interonnected state of being, or plunge to our lowest common denominator below. Many are falling into the abyss at record rates.

I found this quite tragic until an Angelic entity shared this perspective with me:

“Why do you weep for those whose (free) will was honored? Yours is no more worthy than theirs.”

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July 5th 2013 – Call To Light Podcast with Danielle Egnew: The Culture of Love

CallToLight-PodcastHowdy everyone! I hope your Fourth of July was spent with amazing family and friends — mine sure was!

Speaking of warm and fuzzy, join me this week as I discuss the Culture of Love: What is love, from a spiritual perspective? How is the Culture of Love winning in the world right now? What does it truly mean to “love thy neighbor”, or to “turn the other cheek”? And how is Darkness responding to the spread of Love throughout the world? Tune in by clicking the link below and find out!

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June 28th 2013 – Call To Light Podcast with Danielle Egnew: Identifying Self-Defeating Behavior

CallToLight-PodcastJune 28th – Identifying Self-Defeating Behavior Hi everyone! Please join me as I discuss the spiritual dynamics of Self-Defeating Behavior: What is it? Why do we enact behavior that would cause us to stumble in the first place? Does our calling change throughout our life? And how do we stop tripping ourselves up? Tune in by clicking the link below and find out!

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June 21 2013 – Call To Light Podcast with Danielle Egnew: Defeating Worry

CallToLight-PodcastJoin Danielle as she discusses the spiritual dynamics of worry: How does worrying affect our life path? How can we stop ourselves from living a life drenched in worry? And when it comes right down to it — what IS a worry? Tune in by clicking the link below as Danielle passes on tips from Angelic beings — on how to avoid this all-too-common mental trap!

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June 14th 2013 – Call To Light Podcast with Danielle Egnew: Connecting to God Energy

CallToLight-PodcastDon’t get mired in the weight of despair – find out how to shake off those blues and keep on moving forward. You are more than the sum total of your pain! Join me as I discuss connecting to The God Energy: How do we do that? Why is it important? What IS it? How does Darkness work to keep us seperated from our Point of Origin? What happens if we co-create seperation from Light, with Darkness? Tune in by clicking the link and find out!!

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June 6th 2013 – Call To Light Podcast with Danielle Egnew: Fear vs Gratitude

June 6th 2013 – Fear vs Gratitude

CallToLight-PodcastListen to Call To Light Radio podcast while Danielle discusses fear vs gratitude: What is the cult of fear and how did we become a member? What is fear? Why do we allow our fears to run our lives? How can we live in gratitude instead? And how can the choice to replace fear with gratitude change our life? Tune in by clicking the link below, and find out!

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