You may not notice the time frame of the feminine when turning on the news and watching yet another old-school patriarchal mess tangling itself into knots in the nation’s Capitol. Yet the era of the feminine is here to stay for at least another 99,000 years, give or take. And that’s one of the main reasons we’re watching the sparks fly; It’s going to take some getting used to.
The feminine time frame is an era of creation, unification, healing as one body, and growth. Since humanity has evolved under the masculine time frame, the true feminine strengths are still widely misunderstood and are often compared to the masculine.
The women’s liberation movement of the 1970’s had a masculine edge. Women and men alike are just now beginning to understand the deep strength of the feminine as it stands on its own — not attempting to emulate the masculine, or be in contrast to the masculine by being “ladylike”.
Both men and women embody the masculine and feminine. Basically, our inner momma grizzly bear has awakened, and all genders aren’t sure what to do with that kind of raw, unstoppable power within that won’t simply posture as the ram butting another off the mountain — but instead, unapologetically eating the other ram entirely.
Men especially are struggling with this sudden rush in horse power under the hood that has no instruction manual. So the power is coming out sideways.
Welcome to the Culture of Rage, where both men and women alike blow like a rabid volcano for no other reason except that they can.
While an old, dead patriarchal world plays its very last poker hand in Washington DC, the 20th century caricatures off of your grandpa’s tattered monopoly board bluff their way to another round, chomping on saliva-soaked cigar stubs and snapping their suspenders while winking over smudges monocles.
For some, this is a terrifying situation that means a powerless future for the common American. For others, it means a welcome deliverance back to the good ol’ days where women and people of color respectfully knew their place.
For the rest of us, it’s a glimpse of an ancient corpse kept alive on failing life support, moments before the respirator is turned off to let the brain-dead body finally Rest In Peace.
No matter what your take may be on this time frame, the prevailing winds of change have brought forth a ripple in how we treat one another. The dignified niceties once held in esteem when addressing a stranger have been tossed aside for one last round of hubris pie as an endless stream of bully-speak makes its last attempt at being normalized.
The Culture of Rage in our nation has been fortified as the old world lowers its head to take its final bow while bringing down with it an antiquated system of subjugation.
For those who do not speak the polarizing language of insults and verbal abuse, this Rage culture — ridicule first, ask questions never — is a shock to the system, especially when the rush of the anonymous internet places wind in overly-seething sails.
The following are five tips to surviving the Culture of Rage, especially in the virtual realm:
1. Don’t try and speak a language that you don’t understand.
Ever notice that online troll who posts something nasty no matter what course the discussion has taken? And ever notice how much energy that person sucks out of the discussion because their bizarre spewing makes no sense and the whole rant is going nowhere fast?
That’s because they’re speaking a language that you don’t understand. It’s called Nonsensical Rage.
You wouldn’t stand and argue with someone speaking Mandarin Chinese though you didn’t understand them, would you? Of course not. So stop engaging the rage mongers. Stop trying to smooth over their comments by attempting to reason with an unreasonable anger-machine.
In fact, ignore them. Stop talking to them, period. Let them blow hard into a vacuum.
They’ll go away once no attention is paid to them.
It’s no one’s job to make feel better someone who is being blatantly horrible and ruining the vibe of a perfectly fabulous conversation. And you aren’t going to make sense to them anyway. They aren’t there to be converted by your reason and thoughtfulness. They’re there to victimize whomever they can and spew vitriol because those caught up in the Culture of Rage often feel invisible. That’s an issue for their therapist — not your whole thread.
So cut them off and move on. It’s the least you can do for yourself and moreover, true friends and family who share your cyberspace. Whatever you do — don’t feed the trolls. They’ll come back like stray cats looking for an open trash bag to eat out of.
And that’s just yucky.
2. Be okay to delete / block a bully or a heated antagonist.
Somewhere it was embedded into our heads that we should try to be polite in rectifying a miscommunication so as not to hurt the feelings or embarrass a person who steps over the line of decorum. This is great advice under normal circumstances.
Yet nothing about the Culture of Rage is normal.
If someone continues to spew ugliness with no provocation — that’s what the “delete” prompt is for. Within yourself, wish them a buh-bye and remove the stream of ugly, or name-calling, or chiding.
That doesn’t mean you have thin skin or that you’re weak. It means you respect yourself enough to have decent boundaries.
This act of deleting or blocking can be challenging if it’s a close friend or family member. Yet perhaps it’s time to ask yourself:
Why am I subjecting myself to this A-Hole anyway?
3. Avoid being baited by challenges or arguments.
Your opinion on your pages is just that — yours. Your pages. Your space. Your story, your thoughts. You are not responsible for justifying your world view to those who seek exception to your view.
Unless you’re the Washington Post or the LA Times, you have absolutely no obligation whatsoever to host someone’s argument against your own opinion. “Freedom of Speech” only applies to major press outlets, and isn’t Carte Blanche to be a horrible human being in basic conversation.
If you like giving people a platform to rail against your world view for the sake of debate, that’s a slightly different story. Yet you’ll notice that those who have adopted the Culture of Rage have no debate skills. They simply TYPE IN ALL CAPS AND THEN SWEAR AT YOU or they keep making pithy comments with no substance outside of “I know you are but what am I”, relegating them to troll status. (See step #1 for help in dealing with trolls.)
4. Remember that the virtual world isn’t real.
That’s right — those friend counts, shares, re-tweets, likes, and video views, and status posts? They aren’t real. They’re just evidence of an impulse within a moment, an illusion of connection.
Sure, we stay in touch with lots of great people through social media. Yet it’s just something to do to fill time or pass on (hopefully real) news.
Real life is calling. Go connect with it.
If you’re finding yourself getting depressed because of what’s on Facebook — that’s like saying you’re ready to end it all because your fan fiction group killed off a character.
It’s time to disengage and address in yourself why you’re giving this virtual platform, with people you don’t even know, so much power in your life.
Instead, call a real friend or family member on the phone and touch base. Have appetizers and a drink with pals. Reconnect, connect, connect in real life. Get off the devices where the Culture of Rage can create whatever craptastic reality it desires and get back into life where you design the experiences.
The virtual world is not real. Yet you are. So wake up out of the matrix and go watch the sunset with your dog while eating a soft-serve cone.
Make sure to give some to your dog though. It makes them really happy.
5. Don’t allow fear to be your mantra.
So many people live their lives to avoid pain, conflict, and confrontation. This makes sense as the only people who tend to enjoy those things are active participants in the Culture of Rage.
Yet when we live to avoid fear, we live within fear. It’s our main focus. Everything we do is based on seeing the world through a lens of fear in order to attempt to avoid it.
Since like attracts like in the spiritual universe, as we ruminate on fear all day, that’s exactly what we’ll draw to ourselves.
Rather than approaching life with the mantra of “What’s going to be wrong today” (which attracts many members of the Culture of Rage), pop in the recording of “This day is exactly what I make it!” And in that resonation, no low vibration outside of your own design can stand.
The Culture of Rage counts on your addiction to fear in order to find that door cracked open so that they may come in and wreak havoc.
Slam that bad boy shut, put on some good music and wag your tail to your own drummer. This is your life. Your life is not in response to a bully, but in response to your loving spirit. Own it proudly. Those who love and respect you then understand you. Those who don’t — don’t need to. Bless them on their way and set them free to their own lessons.
We aren’t here to make everyone happy. We are here to be. How someone else perceives our being — is on them.
These are your boundaries, your joy. And that’s non-negotiable.
With taking just a few positive steps toward not forming attachments to opinions that you’ve never asked for, the Culture of Rage is then denied access to you, your life, your thoughts and your vibrational world.
Though discussing opposing viewpoints can bring forward untold opportunities for growth and learning, being the whipping post for a person’s rage serves only to increase the sensation of victimization for the abuser, and the role of victim for the abused.
Be okay to walk away.
Therein lies your freedom in all aspects of life.