As someone who does what I do, both in media and with private clients, I often receive the same question multiple times in a day: “I’m having Psychic Experiences, and I think I may be a Psychic / Medium / Sensitive. How do I deal with this?”

This can be a daunting feeling, if one feels that they are “all alone” in these experiences. How to deal with these abilities and not feel overwhelmed and isolated because of them, is a problem that has often plagued spiritually sensitive people from early ages onward. Many consider these gifts to be “curses”, based upon a lack of experience in dealing with the gift coupled with a prevalent amount of religious dogma in our Western Society.

If you ever get a chance to watch “Psychic Kids”, even in re-runs, I feel those who are questioning would learn a lot from the show – I know that as an adult, I sure have!! I didn’t have anyone to help me out as a kid, with any of these abilities. I was raised in a very traditional Evangelical Christian home in Montana, though my grandparents, who were Italian Catholic, were rather mystical about spirituality. Having no one to discuss these aptitudes with can be scary, although the entire Psychic Phenomenon has become far more mainstream in the past five years. Not having enough information on how to deal with these aptitudes can sometimes be terrifying, when, in reality, the “Psychic situation” is a very workable one.

If you’re a person questioning what you can be doing with your own spiritual gifts, the first thing I need to do is help you “de-mystify” what you are going through, as believe it or not, and certainly not to dismiss your struggles in any way – but what you are going through is very common for people who are “open channels”. This may be through Psychic experiences, or Mediumship, or Empathy, or all of the above.

I often receive letters where people are regularly seeing and hearing deceased family members. What they are experiencing, though it can be interpreted as very scary (because often we are not given support in how to deal with it) is actually not a curse. I promise you, it’s not. It’s a Mediumship Aptitude, and without someone to listen to the experience, and help you as a child, it would be natural that you would be very, very afraid of these visitors who always seemed to be around, and would appear to be “tormenting” you, when in fact – many of them are simply seeking help as well. I, too, see and experience spirits, and their emotionality. This ability to do so has been documented in many world religions. In the Christian religions, the figure Elijah saw and talked to all sorts of dead people  — so did Enoch.

The Mediumship Aptitude is not a curse, but an “extra antennae” that allows you to pick up what others cannot see or hear. The best I can tell you when dealing with any extra-sensory gift is this – the first thing to do is to accept that you are “wired” with some “extra sensors”, and look at it like a mechanical issue, rather than a “curse”. If we decide that something no longer is frightening, and understand what it is, then immediately, it begins to be less scary.

If you have a spiritual aptitude that allows you to have “extra sensors”, and these “extra sensors” pick up human beings who once had bodies, but don’t anymore, who sometimes are confused, or lost, or simply choose to stay here, after their bodies expire. These humans are the same as you or me – they just don’t have a “flesh suit”, or a body, like we do. You see, every living creature on earth, while in physical residency on this earth, is required to wear a body, or a flesh suit – just like an astronaut would wear a space suit. A body is the “necessary outfit” for our soul to be able to function here, to pick things up, walk around, reproduce, lol – you get the jist. So, though the disembodied person standing in front of you may seem a bit shocking, it’s very important to remember that these spirits are JUST people. They may startle us, or they may “feel weird”, because without a body, the soul actually has an electromagnetic field which is a little uncomfortable to experience for those of us in a body. And, if it makes you feel any better, WE feel weird to spirits for the same reason. Spirits are actually on a different vibration, or frequency , than we are, and just like putting your feet on a massager that vibrates at a different rate than your foot, spirits are literally “vibrating” at a higher frequency than we are , while we are in a physical body. They are moving a bit faster than we are 9with respect to particle Physics), which is why, often, they can’t be seen to by the naked eye. Anyway, because of this “vibration”, what we feel as “scary”, is literally, just science – it’s the fact that these poor folks without a body are vibrating faster than we are, and it just feels weird, in the same way that static electricity feels weird against your skin. Do your best not to be frightened by the way that they feel. It’s simply EMF – an electromagnetic field. It’s a real, detectable thing that paranormal investigators use EMF meters to locate spirits with. Even non-Psychic people can detect EMF, and high EMF fields can actually cause nausea, paranoia, hallucinations, and skin irritations – and, to boot, EMF is naturally occurring, in electricity. People who don’t ground their wiring well enough have too much EMF in their homes.

So far, we’ve covered that:

1) These entities are just people, without bodies, so there’s no need to fear them.
2) They feel weird for an actual scientific reason – because they give off an electromagnetic field, which living humans are sensitive to.

Now, the third thing to keep in mind is that with Mediumship often times (but not always) comes the Empath ability – and as an empath, you will tend to soak up, or “feel” these entities’ emotions. However, just because you CAN soak it in, does not mean that you have to. When you feel those washes of emotionality come over you, imagine the emotion like a big ball in front of you, and imagine yourself simply rolling up on top of the ball. You can feel it beneath you, but you are not letting the ball roll THROUGH you. Observe the emotion, recognize that it does not come from you, and refuse to experience it. As an “open channel”, you have the slight challenge of teaching yourself how to CLOSE the channel, rather than OPENING it, which is what most people attempt to do. You can close the channel by simply separating yourself from the emotion, and making a conscious recognition that it doesn’t belong to you. You can even say, “This emotion doesn’t belong to me, and I’m not going to participate with it.” You may feel a little sad, or a little mad, but please keep in mind that YOU have 100% control over whether or not you allow yourself to “go down that emotional path” with these entities. Remember, just because you CAN doesn’t mean you HAVE TO. So, to recap:

1) These entities are just people, without bodies, so there’s no need to fear them. You wouldn’t fear the people standing in the grocery store line with you, even if they had a Halloween mask on, right ?
2) They feel weird for an actual scientific reason – because they give off an electromagnetic field, which living humans are sensitive to.
3) Just because you are picking up an emotion, does not mean you have to absorb it. Say out loud to the person (without a body) who is in front of you, “These are not my emotions. You need to back off.”

The hard habit to break is not feeling like a victim in all this, as when we are children and feeling helpless within these spiritual aptitudes, we often do feel like victims. If we are not taught how to responsibly deal with this stuff, then as adults, we wrongly continue feeling like there is nothing we can do about any of it, but that is the way that our “inner child” is looking at the situation.

When our adult comes to the table, the truth is that we have 100% control over how much we participate with these entities, and how much we feel from them. If you’re not in the mood to deal with them, you can simply say: “You can’t talk with me right now. I’m sorry. You have to leave.” And make a conscious choice to “disconnect” from them, and not engage them. Just like you would tell a stranger who was in your home to get out. You’d talk for a second, then you’d walk away. Remember that you have 100% control over this ability. So to recap:

1) These entities are just people, without bodies, so there’s no need to fear them. You wouldn’t fear the people standing in the grocery store line with you, even if they had a Halloween mask on, right ?
2) They feel weird for an actual scientific reason – because they give off an electromagnetic field, which living humans are sensitive to.
3) Just because you are picking up an emotion, does not mean you have to absorb it. Say out loud to the person (without a body) who is in front of you, “These are not my emotions. You need to back off.”
4) You are not a helpless victim of this wonderful spiritual aptitude — you have 100% control over how much you choose to participate with these entities, even though it may take a little practice in how to “not engage them”. You can say out loud, “I know you’re here. I’m busy, and you’ll have to move on.” And then stop giving them any focus. The last part is the hardest, because it demands that we simply choose not to fall back into the inner child’s “fear consciousness”. Remember –No person without a body has any authority over you.

The last and most important step is to FULLY EMBRACE who you are, and how you are wired, because these gifts don’t go away, and until you fully make peace with this “extra sensor”, it will continue to be the “unsettled piece” of you, that you will fear. But there’s nothing at all to fear. Who you are, and what you are able to do, is beautiful. Even if no one has helped you overcome the fear of living with it. Now, we are going to move this last step to the front of the line, so your five-point checklist, as living with a Medium, is:

1) FULLY EMBRACE that this gift is not a curse, but an “extra sensor”, and what you are able to experience is not be feared, as a child would fear it, but embraced as an adult would embrace extra tools in their tool kits.
2) These entities are just people, without bodies, so there’s no need to fear them. You wouldn’t fear the people standing in the grocery store line with you, even if they had a Halloween mask on, right ?
3) They feel weird for an actual scientific reason – because they give off an electromagnetic field, which living humans are sensitive to.
4) Just because you are picking up an emotion, does not mean you have to absorb it. Say out loud to the person (without a body) who is in front of you, “These are not my emotions. You need to back off.”
5) You are not a helpless victim of this wonderful spiritual aptitude — you have 100% control over how much you choose to participate with these entities, even though it may take a little practice in how to “not engage them”. You can say out loud, “I know you’re here. I’m busy, and you’ll have to move on.” And then stop giving them any focus. The last part is the hardest, because it demands that we simply choose not to fall back into the inner child’s “fear consciousness”. No person without a body has any authority over you.

You do have guides and angels, and they look after you. This gift you have can be used for HUGE amounts of good. You can help police solve crimes by being able to speak to the victims who have passed over. You can help bring closure to families who hurt. And you will develop in no time the ability to “close the Psychic blinds” when you don’t want to engage these entities, just as you would choose to hang up the phone with someone you were speaking with, that you were done talking to. I went through what you went through, and I trained myself, all on my own, to do what I described to you, and it made all the difference in the world. This advice is equally sage for Clairvoyants. Sometimes, the things we seeing the future aren’t always happy. Simply remind yourself that you are peering through “the blinds in time”, and seeing action that your current timeline has not yet caught up with. Keep in mind that the future is also malleable. Also realize that you, as a Psychic, are not responsible for saving the whole world. That’s an guilt-ego-issue that many people who are struggling with these aptitudes will wrestle with. You can only do what you can do. None of us are God. As long as you do your best, you’re well within your duties as a spiritual worker.

Yes, sometimes situations can seem intense. There are bully spirits, but just get right in their face and tell them to bug off, just like you would a person. If you ever run into a Chaotic dark entity, or a Demonic, I will tell you that no matter what our individual faiths are down here on earth, those entities are afraid to the core of their being of Jesus, and by invoking Jesus, and Michael the Arc Angel in the name of Jesus, you’ll send that darkness packing. Jesus doesn’t care if you’re Wiccan or Mormon or Catholic or nothing at all – just as long as you call Him in if you need Him. Both He, and Michael, are here to help. (Sheesh, Jesus was the original paranormal investigator and Demonologist! 😉 If you feel uncomfortable with this, then call a priest. They’re very comfortable with “kicking the behind” of darkness. It’s their job. Demons are not to be feared, as they eat fear, and no one wants to be a Demon buffet, and they are to be dealt with a little differently than you would deal with a negative once-human entity. Think of Demons like a shark in the water. It’s very unlikely that you will ever see a shark, or of you do, that the shark will attack you, but be mindful if it’s swimming too close.

I hope this helps you. Other than what I’ve relayed, it’s just a simple slight re-adjustment in how you look at how you’re wired – a choice you make, to stop looking at how you were made as a ”curse”, which is negative, and looking at it as a “gift”, which it is, once you get your groove with it and practice setting boundaries with these spirits, just as you would with your own child. Mediumship and Clairvoyance are both the types of gift that when employed correctly, can help many, many people, if you simply practice applying those five bullet points, and get comfortable with them.

You can do this. God doesn’t make mistakes, and doesn’t make junk ;), and never gives us something that we can’t handle. So clearly, you’ll be able to take the “five-point challenge” and succeed! Remember – no matter how “creeped out” you feel – it’s just a feeling. It’s not the reality of the situation. And once you re-train yourself out of that child’s perspective of fear, pretty soon, it’s just “a day in the life of a Psychic Medium”, and someday YOU’LL be passing on your own version of this to someone who needs help !

Take care, embrace and rejoice in how you’re made because it’s extraordinary and perfect, and shine brightly !!